You asked a great Apple Box question: “I seem to be having a
lot of stress. What can I do?” It is a big and important question and I hope
this Apple Box answer begins to address it. Remember, you can ALWAYS ask
follow-up questions!
A friend once told me, “If you don’t feel stress, you just
fall down!” He was right, you know, because some stress is just plain necessary
in life. No stress in my muscles and I fall to the floor in a puddle; no stress
in my conscience and I make poor moral choices; no stress during a math test
means I am not using my brain – you get the picture … we have to decide whether
the stress we are experiencing is “good” stress – like the stuff above – or
“bad” stress – like the stress caused when you are bullied or the stress that
causes you to feel super mad, sad, scared or shamed.
Since I don’t know exactly what kind of stress you are
dealing with, here is some general & biblical advice for dealing with “bad”
stress.
After you read this, I encourage you to speak to someone you
trust about your stress. It is a good first step to ask the Apple Box.
Next, actually SPEAK with someone. For example, perhaps choose your dad or your
mom. You could ask to speak with
them.
Then you choose a
comfortable place (maybe the dinner table after dinner, or in your room
before bed, or under your favorite tree in your yard – someplace you like). My
daughter and I always went to the same comfortable place to talk about
difficulties, problems and stresses, and it made it easier to chat.
Then ask them to
listen but without giving you advice.
(This helps you explain everything you want to explain. And you have to ask
them just to listen because people
who love you naturally want to help you and give advice – and that’s ok, but they
first have to completely listen so
they know your whole story. Does that
make sense?)
Finally, ask them to share an experience from
their own life. This will help you to know that they understand a little bit
better what you are experiencing (even though what you feel is still different)
and also that you are not alone in feeling stressed (in fact, I’m pretty sure
every human being feels super stressed at one point or another.
When I have been stressed I have gone to Scripture for help.
There are certainly many verses which can offer you comfort, but truly my
favorite is Psalm 23 (the whole
thing!) I would also encourage you to read Jeremiah
29:11-13. I have found comfort from stress in both of these verses many
times. They help me understand that I am loved, and valued, that I belong and
am important, and that I am not alone.
I hope this answers your question. Let me know how it goes,
ok? God bless you!